This morning, I read
the chapter "what matters most" and these excerpts really stood out,
"The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide to others, but
how much we give of ourselves." and
"The most desired gift of love is
not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention." Wow, what a
powerful message, and it couldn't be more relevant in life. What do you
think about these statements?
I thought I did a good job of spending quality time with people
that matter most to me; however, the more I think about it, the more I realize
that this is an area that really needs a lot of work.
My
husband and I have a limited amount of time to share together with busy
schedules, a 5 month old, and my husband in law school, which consumes his
life. I realized after reading this how I associate “quality time” with time
where we can be affectionate, tune out the world and just be together, or talk
about feelings J
There is no better feeling of love than when my husband gives me his devoted attention.
I also realized that maybe I needed to reanalyze my interpretation of “quality
time” and ways that I could improve the time we do have together, even with the
mundane day to day tasks.
So
this morning instead of doing my normal routine of getting ready (since when I
am home with Bradley even showering can be impossible), I decided to give my
husband my full attention before he headed off to work and school and listened
as he talked about “the law”. I rarely understand what he is talking about,
just like when I go on and on about intubations, central lines, angiograms, and
ballon pumps; however, after reading today’s message in the Purpose Driven Life,
I realized that when I give my husband my devoted attention as he talks about something
that is important to him, I am showing him love. It turned out that my husband
and I really enjoyed this morning and sharing that conversation together and it
was a great start to the day.
I
have often thought that I do a good job of giving people my complete attention
and being present in the moment, but in reality, it’s an area that could use a
lot of work. Sometimes, I need a wake-up call, which today’s reading provided,
to put my focus back into what matters most, my relationships. After all, you
can never get back time.
So
today, think about how you use your time and how you can be present in the
moment with the people you share it with.
Are
your relationships honestly your priority, and how can you ensure that they
are?